Having read many books on management, motivation, self-help and success in life; having heard many experts on the same subjects, one thought comes out very strongly. Its all about the choices you make in life.

Choices change the way you live, the progress, the success and even the failures.
Is it really true?

I know making choices – specially the right ones is not easy. But even when you have made a choice, how easy is it to follow through? After you have chosen something and then you find that may be the right (may not be best) choice for you, but its not what people around you want you to choose. What then?

What happens when you choose to stay the way you are, because you seem to be succeeding so far – but then its your perspective. What if someone else has a different opinion about your choice.

Isn’t it important to see those important views, and choices that others have made for you? Sometimes the choices you make not only affect your life but the life of others. If your choices can affect someone else’s life, should you ask their view about those choices?

what if they don’t want you to choose it? what if it makes a lot of sense to you but its foolish for them? what if?

Sometimes, you just have to stop all that is incoming and go on a diet. Better yet, go on fasting until you can clear all that is negative inside, and nothing more negative comes in. Then, when you have a positive outlook, when you are ready to think again rationally with sensibility and responsibility, you should weigh in all those choices.

I am going on a fast today….so that i can prepare myself to make some better choices for myself, and those whom i affect a lot. May be, i’ll have some sanity in making those choices that make decision happen; decisions that change the destiny.

in search of destiny…and the right choices..

It was July 12th. Pallavi’s Birthday.

Well, lets go back one day..it was July 11th, the day before. The day for a surprise. I had everyone on my side – except a little luck. So here is what we had planned:
A Dance Party at the Kebab Corner in Medford. Nothing could beat that…Pallavi can never expect me to throw her a surprise dance party on her birthday. This is the best idea i have come across since logicwala…i was so excited.

Sachin-Bosky, Param-Archana and Subrat were all ready to surprise Pallavi. We were supposed to reach there at 9:15, when the team was all settled there at 9. It was a good plan – except that the place was near Chipotle. And Pallavi was hungry. And when she is hungry she want to eat a burrito. You know what i mean…so we ended up going to Chipotle…and i started worrying about what will happen if Pallavi sees anyone of the guys here and she will join the dots – her lawyer’s mind never stops working.

Anyways, we made her sit face in opposite direction and so happened that when everyone else was entering kebab corner – which was visible from where i sat- was not visible to Pallavi. A Close escape!!

Now, it was show time. I called everyone at the restaurant to hide and come out only when Pallavi enters. They agreed. Worse – They did it! 🙂 So when Pallavi entered – no one was there. Then the restaurant host said “Happy birthday” to her (THIS WAS NOT PLANNED!! I was surprised!) And no one was there yet. I rushed out to check if they were hiding outside. No one was there. After 2 mins – When Pallavi realized a little bit, that probably we are having a party here instead of at home – everyone came out from the kitchen yelling “Surprise!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!”…but that was little late..wasn’t it.

but anyways, it was a great celebration. May be Party was not a surprise, the Dance was. It was a fun night, with all friends…

Kabhi Kabhi jindagi mein kuch aisa ho jaata hai..
Khush hone ki chahat mein bhi dukh sa chha jaata hai.

Pyaar ki koi seema nahin ye fir se nazar aata hai..
Saat samandar door hai lekin dil mei wahi samata hai..

Door ho ya paas par is dil mein teri soorat hai..
tere dum se ye jindagi ek tu hi to meri jaroorat hai.

Aaj fir ek baar us rab ne mujhko yaad dilaya hai..
Tera saath hai kitna pyaara, tu mera sarmaya hai.

miss you..

I feel lucky. Thing are going my way. If you go back to read my blog from last week, i was unlucky. I feel lucky today.
Am i really lucky or is it just the way thing are happening makes me think so? Does luck really exist? Do people get ahead only on their luck? Lets Rip.

Luck, i believe is Labor Under Correct Knowledge. If you know what you are doing, and know how to go about it, you can get ahead. If you just keep on waiting for your fate to throw opportunities at you, it may, but then are you prepared to grab them? Its a dilemma when it comes to making a wish, and making it happen. We all wish for good things. How many of us really do something to make it happen? Wishing is not a crime, dreams are not weapons. But to not work for realizing that dream, is a crime. Its like cheating yourself. God would not incite a dream on us if it were not to come true. He provides us with the ability to realize our dreams. We are the ones who do not use that ability, and over time, that ability vanishes. The passion dies. And life stops.

For last few weeks when things were not moving the way i wanted, i kept trying. Everything fell in place, and now i feel more secure and serene. Is that luck?

Thats all i had to talk about life. I want to end it with this- Luck does not exist isolated. Its the meeting point of opportunity and preparation. I got lucky when i met pallavi. She was an opportunity, and i was prepared. I feel lucky. Infact, i am lucky that i have a wonderful life partner like her. She is awesome. After missing her for almost 3 months, now she is here.

That was about love, and about software. Am i lucky enough to have a nice job in a growing organization with a decent pay? you bet! For the first one week i was not sure, but as the things have started becoming clear, i am interacting with client and my peers and knowing them, its getting more interesting.

Be it life, love or software, you get lucky if you put yourself into it. If you are not interested, luck is not interested in you. Go out there, do it, and you can have it all!

Ok..
so here i am after a very long break. But now i’ll be regular. Promise.

Well life’s beautiful because i am almost settled at Boston. Work has started. Its too tiring to sit in meetings all day and not being able to sleep. Afterall its a new job 🙂

This city has spread its arms to welcome me here, and provided some of the best things i always wanted. Office is not too far, commute is ok, grocery shops nearby, restaurants on walking distance. And above all, my very good friends in the neighbourhood. I used to hang out with these guys in Patni, and now they are here. Great!

And to make it all worthwhile, Pallavi has also joined me here. She flew in on Saturday evening, and she is sleeping since then. Jetlag. Well i’ll ask her how does she like America once she gets up.

Life seems to be beautiful today…but i know its going to be equally challenging tomorrow. And I am ready for it. Bring it on!