Its not a new question to me -which i was asked again today. Most of my friends, my colleagues and acquintances have asked this question to me …many times…and as always, i answer them, but I am also confused if that IS the right answer.
Well i know its right. But if that is right for everyone – each of them?
Here is the question:
I have come to US to earn money. But I miss my family too much. What should I do? Should I stay for 1 year and see, or should i ask my manager to release me and send me back? I am not having peace of mind here. I feel bad. I want money, but I love my family.
My question is:
Why do you want money? They would say “For my family”
Then why do you not want to stay and earn it for them? “I dont like being away from them”
Ok, then what stops you from being with them and earn? “There is not enough potential back home”
Cool..Then stay for sometime and then go back. “I am not happy. I dont know what to do”.
If it does sound to you like a conversation you had with someone, sometime, I bet you did. Its the same situation most of the people – specially those on projects in IT industry – are in. They are in Dillemma. For some people there is no middle way. It has to be one way or the another. A few do compromise but to a little extent.
I am not a guru or anything, but i can certainly provide a few pointers that might help….here you go…
First of all…
Find out your correct purpose. You want to earn money for your family? or something else?
Map your goals (If you do not have goals, first make your goals)..ok, so map your goals to your purpose, and prioritize them…
Does it look like this:
1. Being happy.
2. Being with my family.
3. Being rich
4. supporting my family.
5. Building a good career.
6. Roam around the world…etc…
Or like this:
1. Earn lot of money
2. Build my own home for my family.
3. Roam around the world.
and happiness will automatically come along????
If you have the answers similar to first list, goto the website expedia.com, and book the first ticket you can find out for returning back home. If you do not listen to you heart, you can missout of many things you should be enjoying NOW ! like having a weekend picnic with your family..
but if you are in the second list guys, then its a very difficult question for me to answer – Practical or Emotional? Decision is yours. And its a tought one i know.
Third…And the most important part:
Decide, And Dont turn back. Whatever you decide, stick to it, fight for it, and make it happen. Whether you want to go back and fulfill your dreams there, or you want to stay to reach your goals and then go back, remember one thing – “Dont get distracted from why you are here. What did you decide? What is your purpose.” Work for your purpose, and you’ll have urself a life worth remembering, worth living.
After all, its all in the purpose of you life. Ain’t it??